Another beautiful blog by our Blog Ambassador Derek Leung:
I used to think that if I became a better person for someone, I would have a greater chance of being accepted by them. This was great motivation until the inevitable set in: rejection. Then, that part of me was gone, and nothing else mattered. Why improve if no one would appreciate it?
As I’m starting to learn, people will come and go in life, but you will always have yourself. Every day, you will look at yourself in the mirror. Do yourself a favour: stop changing for other people, and instead, change for yourself. Commit to becoming a better person than you were yesterday. Commit to routines, healthy lifestyles, and learning for life. Commit to excellence. You have control over your quality of life, your successes, and your reasons for living; don’t let other people choose for you.
That being said, it is good to change for friends or in memory of loved ones. But keep in mind that relying on people for motivation leaves room for excuses, and doing things for people can give you false hope. Change must come from the heart.
“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”